If I was a famous author I would publish a book with ten different endings which all went to print with varying degrees of rarity, but not tell the fans about it so that I could watch their confusion as they disagree over how the story ended. Then when they figured it out I would ‘come clean’, telling them that I had released eleven alternate endings and watch them panic again as they all try to find the last ending.
If you know me then it’s easy to understand why it chaps my hide (and a few other body parts) that in the name of equality and ego and self-esteem, we have become a society that actually awards mediocrity.
Now, I don’t have anything against trying to build up the self-esteem of children, but the way we’ve gone about it for the past 30 years has given them a false view of themselves and the world. This is not good. Not every one is equal and they shouldn’t be led to believe that they are.
Before you get your knickers in a twist, let me remind you that equality (by which we tend to mean in a legal sense) and equal are not the same thing. The very fact that we even have the concept of “equal under the law” is testament to the fact that we aren’t all equal in reality. The old injustices had to do with your station in life - whether you were part of the nobility or aristocracy. It is right that the law should treat everyone fairly. There should be no difference in treatment, penalty or protection for you or me.
But while you and I are equal under the law (equality), we are not equal as people. I know what Jefferson wrote, but he completely understood this concept. From the standpoint of the government, all men are to be treated equally. But that doesn’t change the fact that there are differences in the value of those people to society as a whole.
NOT ALL PEOPLE ARE CREATED EQUAL
Do not confuse equality under the law with being equal in all things
Which takes us back to the problem of the past 30 years and the “self-esteem” movement. It completely ignores the fact that some people are plain-old, flat-out better than others.
Better at sports, better at math, better at logic, better at humor. Better. And (gasp!) someone (and it can only be one) is the best.
Despite our efforts to make everyone feel great about themselves, this fact isn’t going to go away.
When we warp the standard for excellence, we end up with young professionals who don’t understand how you could give them a negative review. We get college graduates who expect to walk in and be CEO by the second day. We get employees who think they “deserve” whatever you have to give.
People inflate their value and believe it comes just from how “special” they are and not necessarily in the quality of what they do or produce. After all, they always got gold stars for that effort before!
It’s time to re-think the path we’ve been on. Grow up, learn to objectively evaluate performance and we’ll all benefit from the results.
“As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn’t supposed to ever let us down, probably will. You’ll have your heart broken and you’ll break others’ hearts. You’ll fight with your best friend or maybe even fall in love with them, and you’ll cry because time is flying by. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, forgive freely, and love like you’ve never been hurt. Life comes with no guarantees, no time outs, no second chances. you just have to live life to the fullest, tell someone what they mean to you and tell someone off, speak out, dance in the pouring rain, hold someone’s hand, comfort a friend, fall asleep watching the sun come up, stay up late, be a flirt, and smile until your face hurts. Don’t be afraid to take chances or fall in love and most of all, live in the moment because every second you spend angry or upset is a second of happiness you can never get back.”—
“Thinking of things to say is alot easier than saying them. Saying something is alot easier than doing it. Doing it is alot easier than not doing it, and living your life wishing you would have.”—Me, myself and I